It’s become an almost comical part of weddings ~ Bridezilla. But the truth is it isn’t very funny at all. A wedding is a joyous time to be spent with family, friends and loved ones. The wedding party generally gets a good hit from Bridezilla, but you have to remember they are doing this because they love you, and at some expense as well.
If you wonder whether or not you are being a Bridezilla, the answer is probably yes. Here are some warning signs to look for to see if you are turning into Bridezilla. Remember, just because you have looked through the beautiful, cheap wedding dresses and picked out your favorite, you’ve booked the church and the reception hall doesn’t mean your wedding party has to come.
If you don’t want to end up standing at the altar by yourself on your big day, make sure to keep your Bridezilla behavior in check.
Bridezilla Warning Signs
- Feeling you are entitled to special treatment because it’s your “special day”. It’s true it is your wedding day, but remember people are doing this with you because they love you. If you continue to abuse them they will possible quit.
- Spending hours checking your online bridal registry to see what people have bought. You may also be expecting lavish gifts and many bridal showers. You have got to be kidding. The gifts are the very least of this process. Why not call one of your wedding party and ask them how they are feeling, what’s going on with them.
- Expecting perfection. It just isn’t going to happen. If you expect perfection, not only will you get on everyone’s nerves, you will also be disappointed. There is no such thing as perfection, and when you expect it, especially on your wedding day it is a recipe for disaster. Why not set a different expectation for your wedding? Fun, companionship, serenity?? These are all great expectations, and will make not only your wedding party a little happier, but you as well.
- Not focusing on your marriage, because all you can think about is the wedding. Your wedding is a big day ~ that’s a given, however, your marriage is the rest of your life. It is a big change and needs to be nourished throughout this process.
- Spending hours upon hours on online chatrooms talking about your wedding. Yes it’s fun to talk about your wedding, but don’t you have some other things in your life that need attention?
- Thinking about your wedding day 24/7. This goes with the above sign. Yes, it is normal to think about your wedding, but there are other aspects of life that still need to be tended to. If all you can think and talk about is your wedding chances are you are turning into Bridezilla.
Bridezilla Warning Signs that Wedding Disaster is Immanent
- Dictating personal grooming for your wedding party. There are some things it’s perfectly ok to ask for from your wedding party. Their personal grooming is NOT one of them. Get over yourself.
- Micromanaging your wedding professionals. If your photographer, wedding planner or any other wedding professional is no longer taking your calls and ducking you every chance they can you may be nearing a disaster for your wedding day. If you push your wedding professionals over the edge they will quit and you will be left in a lurch. Most wedding professionals need to be hired well in advance of the day. You may not be able to get another at the last minute.
- Everyone is arguing. This is a sure sign of Bridezilla. When everyone is arguing with you and each other things have gotten out of hand. A wedding is a happy celebration of love. It should not be an ongoing argument.
- Losing it over the little things. If you are losing it over a run in your stockings or a smudge in your nail polish you need to take a step back and a deep breath and look at yourself. These small things are bound to happen and ruining your big day over them is NOT worth it.
- Groom is getting sick of hearing you. If your groom is not looking forward to his wedding (yes, it’s his wedding too) you have a problem. Most men are not as involved with the wedding as women, but you don’t want them to dread the big day either.
It’s a funny term and people joke about it, but turning into Bridezilla really isn’t funny. In fact, it’s a nightmare for the wedding party, your family and friends. Please take a look at these warning signs, and if you see them in yourself please, take moment and a deep breath and see if you can’t change your attitude.
You will enjoy your wedding day much more and so will everyone else.